Is it appropriate to breastfeed my daughter during a conference call (voice only), and how do I mention her...
I have a 3 month old daughter and have just started working again for my employer full-time from home after maternity leave. She is quite a needy baby and will sometimes cry if I'm not holding her.
I'm currently trying to schedule my meetings when she naps, but this has proven to be really difficult because she still naps very irregularly. I have had to resort to holding her in my lap, and once now even breastfeeding her, while I'm in my meetings. I know it's not ideal but this is the only solution I've come up with. I can't afford childcare right now.
I don't need to talk a lot in these meetings, so can mute my mic some of the time, but will need to talk occasionally. She can be noisy and make the usual baby cooing noises. She isn't super loud.
I live in the UK and my employer is in Texas, USA. I don't know if it's appropriate to do this, and also if I do have to as a last resort I don't know how to bring it up. Should I excuse the baby noises in the background?
- Do I ask permission? ("Is it ok if I feed my daughter?")
- Do I mention it up front? ("Excuse the baby noises, my daughter is in my lap/being fed, etc")
- Do I only mention it if she makes a noise ("Sorry about that, my daughter is noisy!")
- Do I just not say anything and ignore her noises?
- Do I find some way to work childcare into my already tight budget because this is completely inappropriate?
So far I have just ignored her noises, but I have no idea if that's the right thing to do. There are usually 3-4 people in the meeting, my boss and colleagues. They all know I have a baby.
I do plan on organising childcare in a couple of months time when she becomes more mobile. I work flexible hours and currently only work when I'm not tending to her (usually when she's sleeping or playing happily). I have been careful to not have her interfere with my work productivity and deadlines.
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I have a 3 month old daughter and have just started working again for my employer full-time from home after maternity leave. She is quite a needy baby and will sometimes cry if I'm not holding her.
I'm currently trying to schedule my meetings when she naps, but this has proven to be really difficult because she still naps very irregularly. I have had to resort to holding her in my lap, and once now even breastfeeding her, while I'm in my meetings. I know it's not ideal but this is the only solution I've come up with. I can't afford childcare right now.
I don't need to talk a lot in these meetings, so can mute my mic some of the time, but will need to talk occasionally. She can be noisy and make the usual baby cooing noises. She isn't super loud.
I live in the UK and my employer is in Texas, USA. I don't know if it's appropriate to do this, and also if I do have to as a last resort I don't know how to bring it up. Should I excuse the baby noises in the background?
- Do I ask permission? ("Is it ok if I feed my daughter?")
- Do I mention it up front? ("Excuse the baby noises, my daughter is in my lap/being fed, etc")
- Do I only mention it if she makes a noise ("Sorry about that, my daughter is noisy!")
- Do I just not say anything and ignore her noises?
- Do I find some way to work childcare into my already tight budget because this is completely inappropriate?
So far I have just ignored her noises, but I have no idea if that's the right thing to do. There are usually 3-4 people in the meeting, my boss and colleagues. They all know I have a baby.
I do plan on organising childcare in a couple of months time when she becomes more mobile. I work flexible hours and currently only work when I'm not tending to her (usually when she's sleeping or playing happily). I have been careful to not have her interfere with my work productivity and deadlines.
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Assuming you didn't work from home before having a kid - did you discuss this with your boss when going over expectations for WFH? Do they expect you to have childcare?
– taffy
10 hours ago
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@singlemom - if your employer doesn't know that you are caring for your baby during the same hours you are working, you should discuss it with them now. They probably won't mind, but you need to be sure.
– Joe Strazzere
10 hours ago
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I'm not as confident as @JoeStrazzere that they won't mind - many employers expect you to have childcare, so when you are working you are just working for them. I hope they are understanding.
– thursdaysgeek
9 hours ago
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@singlemom - discussing your plans with your employer is still the right thing to do. I had a remote single mom worker who discussed her childcare situation with me. She had to get her daughter off the school bus, get a snack, make sure she was occupied, etc - all during work hours. It wasn't much of a problem and she was terrific about being able to juggle all the responsibilities. I trusted her to get the work done while still attending to her family's needs. If she had tried to simply sneak that all past me without notice, I doubt it would have worked out as well.
– Joe Strazzere
9 hours ago
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@JoeStrazzere so I just spoke to my boss about this and he said its totally fine that I'm looking after her and that's what he expected and I'm doing a great job. I'm so relieved! I was really worried there. It's fine, he's fine with it. Yay! I did also say I was planning on getting childcare when she is more mobile.
– singlemom
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I have a 3 month old daughter and have just started working again for my employer full-time from home after maternity leave. She is quite a needy baby and will sometimes cry if I'm not holding her.
I'm currently trying to schedule my meetings when she naps, but this has proven to be really difficult because she still naps very irregularly. I have had to resort to holding her in my lap, and once now even breastfeeding her, while I'm in my meetings. I know it's not ideal but this is the only solution I've come up with. I can't afford childcare right now.
I don't need to talk a lot in these meetings, so can mute my mic some of the time, but will need to talk occasionally. She can be noisy and make the usual baby cooing noises. She isn't super loud.
I live in the UK and my employer is in Texas, USA. I don't know if it's appropriate to do this, and also if I do have to as a last resort I don't know how to bring it up. Should I excuse the baby noises in the background?
- Do I ask permission? ("Is it ok if I feed my daughter?")
- Do I mention it up front? ("Excuse the baby noises, my daughter is in my lap/being fed, etc")
- Do I only mention it if she makes a noise ("Sorry about that, my daughter is noisy!")
- Do I just not say anything and ignore her noises?
- Do I find some way to work childcare into my already tight budget because this is completely inappropriate?
So far I have just ignored her noises, but I have no idea if that's the right thing to do. There are usually 3-4 people in the meeting, my boss and colleagues. They all know I have a baby.
I do plan on organising childcare in a couple of months time when she becomes more mobile. I work flexible hours and currently only work when I'm not tending to her (usually when she's sleeping or playing happily). I have been careful to not have her interfere with my work productivity and deadlines.
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I have a 3 month old daughter and have just started working again for my employer full-time from home after maternity leave. She is quite a needy baby and will sometimes cry if I'm not holding her.
I'm currently trying to schedule my meetings when she naps, but this has proven to be really difficult because she still naps very irregularly. I have had to resort to holding her in my lap, and once now even breastfeeding her, while I'm in my meetings. I know it's not ideal but this is the only solution I've come up with. I can't afford childcare right now.
I don't need to talk a lot in these meetings, so can mute my mic some of the time, but will need to talk occasionally. She can be noisy and make the usual baby cooing noises. She isn't super loud.
I live in the UK and my employer is in Texas, USA. I don't know if it's appropriate to do this, and also if I do have to as a last resort I don't know how to bring it up. Should I excuse the baby noises in the background?
- Do I ask permission? ("Is it ok if I feed my daughter?")
- Do I mention it up front? ("Excuse the baby noises, my daughter is in my lap/being fed, etc")
- Do I only mention it if she makes a noise ("Sorry about that, my daughter is noisy!")
- Do I just not say anything and ignore her noises?
- Do I find some way to work childcare into my already tight budget because this is completely inappropriate?
So far I have just ignored her noises, but I have no idea if that's the right thing to do. There are usually 3-4 people in the meeting, my boss and colleagues. They all know I have a baby.
I do plan on organising childcare in a couple of months time when she becomes more mobile. I work flexible hours and currently only work when I'm not tending to her (usually when she's sleeping or playing happily). I have been careful to not have her interfere with my work productivity and deadlines.
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Assuming you didn't work from home before having a kid - did you discuss this with your boss when going over expectations for WFH? Do they expect you to have childcare?
– taffy
10 hours ago
10
@singlemom - if your employer doesn't know that you are caring for your baby during the same hours you are working, you should discuss it with them now. They probably won't mind, but you need to be sure.
– Joe Strazzere
10 hours ago
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I'm not as confident as @JoeStrazzere that they won't mind - many employers expect you to have childcare, so when you are working you are just working for them. I hope they are understanding.
– thursdaysgeek
9 hours ago
2
@singlemom - discussing your plans with your employer is still the right thing to do. I had a remote single mom worker who discussed her childcare situation with me. She had to get her daughter off the school bus, get a snack, make sure she was occupied, etc - all during work hours. It wasn't much of a problem and she was terrific about being able to juggle all the responsibilities. I trusted her to get the work done while still attending to her family's needs. If she had tried to simply sneak that all past me without notice, I doubt it would have worked out as well.
– Joe Strazzere
9 hours ago
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@JoeStrazzere so I just spoke to my boss about this and he said its totally fine that I'm looking after her and that's what he expected and I'm doing a great job. I'm so relieved! I was really worried there. It's fine, he's fine with it. Yay! I did also say I was planning on getting childcare when she is more mobile.
– singlemom
8 hours ago
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Assuming you didn't work from home before having a kid - did you discuss this with your boss when going over expectations for WFH? Do they expect you to have childcare?
– taffy
10 hours ago
10
@singlemom - if your employer doesn't know that you are caring for your baby during the same hours you are working, you should discuss it with them now. They probably won't mind, but you need to be sure.
– Joe Strazzere
10 hours ago
4
I'm not as confident as @JoeStrazzere that they won't mind - many employers expect you to have childcare, so when you are working you are just working for them. I hope they are understanding.
– thursdaysgeek
9 hours ago
2
@singlemom - discussing your plans with your employer is still the right thing to do. I had a remote single mom worker who discussed her childcare situation with me. She had to get her daughter off the school bus, get a snack, make sure she was occupied, etc - all during work hours. It wasn't much of a problem and she was terrific about being able to juggle all the responsibilities. I trusted her to get the work done while still attending to her family's needs. If she had tried to simply sneak that all past me without notice, I doubt it would have worked out as well.
– Joe Strazzere
9 hours ago
7
@JoeStrazzere so I just spoke to my boss about this and he said its totally fine that I'm looking after her and that's what he expected and I'm doing a great job. I'm so relieved! I was really worried there. It's fine, he's fine with it. Yay! I did also say I was planning on getting childcare when she is more mobile.
– singlemom
8 hours ago
2
2
Assuming you didn't work from home before having a kid - did you discuss this with your boss when going over expectations for WFH? Do they expect you to have childcare?
– taffy
10 hours ago
Assuming you didn't work from home before having a kid - did you discuss this with your boss when going over expectations for WFH? Do they expect you to have childcare?
– taffy
10 hours ago
10
10
@singlemom - if your employer doesn't know that you are caring for your baby during the same hours you are working, you should discuss it with them now. They probably won't mind, but you need to be sure.
– Joe Strazzere
10 hours ago
@singlemom - if your employer doesn't know that you are caring for your baby during the same hours you are working, you should discuss it with them now. They probably won't mind, but you need to be sure.
– Joe Strazzere
10 hours ago
4
4
I'm not as confident as @JoeStrazzere that they won't mind - many employers expect you to have childcare, so when you are working you are just working for them. I hope they are understanding.
– thursdaysgeek
9 hours ago
I'm not as confident as @JoeStrazzere that they won't mind - many employers expect you to have childcare, so when you are working you are just working for them. I hope they are understanding.
– thursdaysgeek
9 hours ago
2
2
@singlemom - discussing your plans with your employer is still the right thing to do. I had a remote single mom worker who discussed her childcare situation with me. She had to get her daughter off the school bus, get a snack, make sure she was occupied, etc - all during work hours. It wasn't much of a problem and she was terrific about being able to juggle all the responsibilities. I trusted her to get the work done while still attending to her family's needs. If she had tried to simply sneak that all past me without notice, I doubt it would have worked out as well.
– Joe Strazzere
9 hours ago
@singlemom - discussing your plans with your employer is still the right thing to do. I had a remote single mom worker who discussed her childcare situation with me. She had to get her daughter off the school bus, get a snack, make sure she was occupied, etc - all during work hours. It wasn't much of a problem and she was terrific about being able to juggle all the responsibilities. I trusted her to get the work done while still attending to her family's needs. If she had tried to simply sneak that all past me without notice, I doubt it would have worked out as well.
– Joe Strazzere
9 hours ago
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7
@JoeStrazzere so I just spoke to my boss about this and he said its totally fine that I'm looking after her and that's what he expected and I'm doing a great job. I'm so relieved! I was really worried there. It's fine, he's fine with it. Yay! I did also say I was planning on getting childcare when she is more mobile.
– singlemom
8 hours ago
@JoeStrazzere so I just spoke to my boss about this and he said its totally fine that I'm looking after her and that's what he expected and I'm doing a great job. I'm so relieved! I was really worried there. It's fine, he's fine with it. Yay! I did also say I was planning on getting childcare when she is more mobile.
– singlemom
8 hours ago
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First, as a tip, try to mute your microphone unless you have to speak. That way you will minimize the noise the others in the meeting perceive.
Now, given you are this baby's mother and it's perfectly natural to care for them and feed them, I don't think you have to ask for permission, nor do I think it's possible (or even legal) for them to forbid you to feed your baby.
However, what I suggest is that you inform the others at the beginning of the meeting that your baby is awake, and that some noises may be heard. That way they aren't caught by surprise in case some noises are made.
Edit: As per your comments, seems that you have not discussed with your employer about you caring for your baby while working remote. I second Joe's comment and suggest you bring this up with your manager ASAP, so he/she is also aware of the situation and to see if it's ok for them.
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I spoke to my boss and he's fine with me looking after her, he said I'm doing a great job. I'm just so relieved.
– singlemom
8 hours ago
@singlemom that's great to hear! It was great you clarified with your boss swiftly :) glad I could help, and welcome to The Workplace BTW
– DarkCygnus
7 hours ago
Thanks! I've always used stackoverflow but didn't realize this one was here too. It's pretty cool. Thanks so much for your help!
– singlemom
7 hours ago
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It sounds as if the impact on the calls have thus far been minimal - so I don't think you have anything to worry about. An occasional baby gurgling or cooing noise is going to be far less disruptive than a baby screaming in the background because they want to be held and you being distracted with the urge to respond.
Do I ask permission? ("Is it ok if I feed my daughter?")
I'd say no - everyone knows your situation in general terms. Babies don't wait for workplace lunchtimes.
Do I mention it up front? ("Excuse the baby noises, my daughter is in my lap/being fed, etc")
Again I'd say no - you don't, can't know in advance if she's going to have a particularly noisy day. And for the general case, as before, everyone knows your situation and that a baby will be in your vicinity.
Do I only mention it if she makes a noise ("Sorry about that, my daughter is noisy!")
Only if the noise is actually disruptive to the call - say for example you have to ask someone to repeat something because of the noise. And in that scenario it's fine to say something like "Sorry, could you say that again - my daughter made a noise and I didn't catch what you said" - it sounds like most of the time this isn't what's happening though.
Do I just not say anything and ignore her noises?
If they are just in the background and not actually disrupting anything I'd just ignore them.
Do I find some way to work childcare into my already tight budget because this is completely inappropriate?
Unless things change significantly for the worse than what you've described I don't think you need to concern yourself with this. If your work (and those of your colleagues) isn't being significantly impacted then it sounds like the the situation is working as intended - the company gets the benefits of you working earlier than they would have done otherwise and you get the benefits of more time at home with your daughter before returning to the office. If your employer was more of the "Work and babies must never, ever, ever mix!!" persuasion then they probably wouldn't have agreed to your current work-from-home situation in the first place.
PS: Congratulations on the new family member!
This is an excellent answer.
– Fattie
9 hours ago
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For meetings with your immediate team: don't mention it unless they do, and try to keep on mute during noisy times. If they bring it up, a brief apology or joking it off works. I also work remote full time, and that's how I handle my sometimes-noisy dogs. If you have a headset instead of a microphone that picks up more ambient noise, that helps too.
For higher profile meetings: try to arrange for a babysitter or schedule during naps so you can focus solely on your job. If baby makes a loud noise, apologize when it happens and not in advance.
I would also have a conversation now with your boss about if they expect you to have childcare while you are working, especially when your baby starts crawling around and needing more stimulation. Better to be prepared and start budgeting for it now than be surprised later on.
For a contrary view. A client I was working for, another party had a dog that barked during calls. It happened once, and then the second day it happened the person was summarily terminated directly after the meeting because of it. It's something you have to be careful about.
– Fattie
9 hours ago
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Fortunately I'm not involved in high-profile calls. But I do plan on organising some kind of childcare in a couple of months time.
– singlemom
9 hours ago
@Fattie wow that seems really extreme! Hopefully they at least got a warning about it the first time so they could take measures against the noise.
– taffy
8 hours ago
@singlemom.. Fattie's story is the point I was trying to drive home in the other comments. I think its professional and acceptable to up front about your situation but at the same time you always have to consider reducing your risk of being hit by the bus. If I were your client, I would appreciate the heads up and give "baby on the other end of the line" a few chances. At the same time, I dont have kids and am not used to the cries of an infant.. (im sure little noises arent a problem).. When I hear it on TV or at a friend's, my train of thought is obliterated.. Not good for working
– Smitty
8 hours ago
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@Fattie lol.. Ive gotten in trouble for saying "that is some sexy looking code" at the wrong time... I think I am learning that you and I have similar scars from the High Power Enterprise Software wars of the last decade
– Smitty
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It depends somewhat on your relationship to the other folks in the meeting, but for routine meetings with team members, I wouldn’t say anything until and unless it becomes a problem for someone. Just use the mute button when you’re not talking and everything should be fine.
For special meetings with higher-ups or new clients, I’d try as hard as possible to hold them during naps, but failing that, I’d still do things the same way: apologize if and only if it becomes necessary.
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Can you afford a noise-cancelling microphone? https://www.amazon.com/Olympus-ME-52W-Noise-Canceling-Microphone/dp/B000MYPPPE?ref_=fsclp_pl_dp_1
If yes then go buy one.
After you buy one then have another person help you test out its noise-cancelling power since every brand could have different levels of noise-cancelling effect.
You should always mute yourself when you are not speaking but for the times that you do need to speak your microphone can help to mitigate background noises.
If the noises are troublesome then hopefully someone makes you aware that they cannot hear/understand you and you can use that opportunity to briefly apologize.
If the noises are frequently interfering with the meeting then you must figure out a different arrangement for your child during these meetings.
Oh, nice, I didn't know those existed. That doesn't seem too expensive either as far as microphones go. I'm currently using a pair of earbuds with the mic in the cable, but those need to go at some point before my daughter starts grabbing the wires. This is a good candidate for the replacement.
– singlemom
7 hours ago
@singlemom You can also look into noise cancelling headsets jabra.com/fq/best-noise-cancelling-headsets-for-a-call-center so that you can go completely hands and wire-free. bestbuy.com/site/…
– MonkeyZeus
7 hours ago
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As everyone has said, for God's sake do not do either of these two
Do I ask permission? ("Is it ok if I feed my daughter?")
Do I mention it up front? ("Excuse the baby noises, my daughter is in my lap/being fed, etc")
With this one:
- Do I only mention it if she makes a noise ("Sorry about that, my daughter is noisy!")
If there is unfortunately a noise, just say "oh sorry" and press on. Do NOT say "oh sorry the dog barked / baby woke / UPS arrived". It's wholly annoying.
- Do I find some way to work childcare into my already tight budget because this is completely inappropriate?
Unfortunately, do not dismiss this. Your AAAAA priority is keeping your career absolutely on track. Be aware, let us say, that in some situations this would indeed be the answer. Example: you find yourself in a higher paying remote job (yay!); then yes, you need some sort of au pair, a local teenager who is there some hours, or the like.
On the technical front:
- as everyone has said, get good at using the mute button
- it could be (I don't know - let's hear from a geeky audio expert) that one of those headset microphones has some sort of noise cancelling effect, or at least reduces ambient noise
Now, as everyone has said:
You need to talk to your boss about this up front now!
Naturally, you then ask ......
But Fattie, what language do I use?
You want to keep it minimal, clear, professional and a fait accompli.
Do NOT beg or ask for favors. Do NOT minimize the situation - but do not maximize it.
DO NOT specifically mention "feeding" or "breast feeding" - just "baby noise in general".
Example emails:
"Hey Steve, one thing. As you know I now have the baby. This is great as I'm working harder than ever - no distractions, no going out! One thing Im concerned about - what if there's ever some baby noise in the background, when we're having a call with the guys? Would you give me your thoughts on this?
or what about
"Hey Steve, I have a concern about our daily calls. As you know there's a baby in my house here now! Im concerned ... what if there's ever some baby noise in the background, when we're having a call with the guys? As you know I'm more dedicated to the project than ever now there's a baby around - but this one thing has me nervous. I'd die if there was some sudden baby noise during a call - can you give me your thoughts?
(As always in negotiation, end with a question to the other party.)
Notice you are being
- Brief - BREIF, BRIEF, BRIEF, do not make this an issue. It isn't
- Overboard with positveness
- NOT mentioning detail like the "type" of noise
- as always, end with a question
You should essentially send one of these emails or texts now today. (It's 12 in Dallas!) If using skype/chat whatever, I'd possibly send it on the everyone channel, but addressed to "Steve" (Boss) as here - it makes it less dramatic and includes everyone.
I'd give more examples but I have to go help some adult babies! :O
I like the first example email, as it's on point and asks for boss' thoughts (rather than saying, "this is a problem, right?")
– DarkCygnus
8 hours ago
@DarkCygnus , putting aside our personal Feud, I feel that YOU should contribute some "actual example emails" because other than me, you're best at that on the list - and this QA is a very worthy cause. Plus you'd give a different spin.
– Fattie
8 hours ago
Didn't know this was a "feud" :) just creative tension ;) I actually think your first sample is great, and I don't think I could word it differently (perhaps just word choice, but core message and assertiveness not). If I come up with a different phrasing I'll consider including it in my answer, otherwise I'd go with your phrasing (perhaps even give Boss a call or virtual meeting as an alternative to emails). Still, emails is good because of the paper trail it leaves as evidence of Boss' answer
– DarkCygnus
8 hours ago
Hell - maybe it was someone else. Sorry! :O Hic
– Fattie
8 hours ago
I spoke to my boss about everything. He's fine with it. Yay! I feel so much better. He said it's no problem and he understands and I'm doing a great job.
– singlemom
7 hours ago
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It's flat out not appropriate to breast feed during a conference call in an office environment. That being said, there's really no way around it since the issue is random baby noises. Just tell your employer ahead of time and don't worry too much about the noise.
This is one of those things, that's just going to happen so it doesn't really matter if it's appropriate. Another good thing about your situation is that it sounds like you work from home. If that's the case, then random noise should be expected. I'd expect the atmosphere at your job to be more relaxed too. If that's the case then I don't think anyone will actually care. You should be fine.
If you don't work from home, just make sure you're not flashing your coworkers.
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One thing worth noting is that breast-feeding sometimes isn't enough and the babies keep crying and seem needy. usually an extra bottle is enough, sometimes it's just a few milliliters they need.
About the question: I would wait until you have a really noisy episode and then ask "sorry, is it too loud? the baby is very hungry today." but in general that is more distracting than if you just ignore it and repeat the part that probably got lost. Too many explanations and excuses will distract everyone, so just go like "We should use framework XY because it has ... SLUUURP ... because it has features A, B and C while the other frameworks usua .... SLUUUUUUURP .. usually have only two of them."
After having conferences with customers who had their windows open all the time near a fire station. My coworker kept asking if I watch movies because he could hear the fire trucks through my headphones. Some baby noises seem like nothing compared to that.
About daycare: Not all, but some kids are just not happy if you leave them too early in daycare, so you should have a plan B. Our parents were sometimes watching our baby and always said it's fine and look it's sleeping, but one day we came home earlier and it was crying nonstop and they admitted that it cried itself to sleep every time. Wouldn't trust the daycare center that "all is good" without staying a few days there (usually in the next room) and checking how it goes.
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First, as a tip, try to mute your microphone unless you have to speak. That way you will minimize the noise the others in the meeting perceive.
Now, given you are this baby's mother and it's perfectly natural to care for them and feed them, I don't think you have to ask for permission, nor do I think it's possible (or even legal) for them to forbid you to feed your baby.
However, what I suggest is that you inform the others at the beginning of the meeting that your baby is awake, and that some noises may be heard. That way they aren't caught by surprise in case some noises are made.
Edit: As per your comments, seems that you have not discussed with your employer about you caring for your baby while working remote. I second Joe's comment and suggest you bring this up with your manager ASAP, so he/she is also aware of the situation and to see if it's ok for them.
11
I spoke to my boss and he's fine with me looking after her, he said I'm doing a great job. I'm just so relieved.
– singlemom
8 hours ago
@singlemom that's great to hear! It was great you clarified with your boss swiftly :) glad I could help, and welcome to The Workplace BTW
– DarkCygnus
7 hours ago
Thanks! I've always used stackoverflow but didn't realize this one was here too. It's pretty cool. Thanks so much for your help!
– singlemom
7 hours ago
Comments are not for extended discussion; this conversation has been moved to chat.
– Monica Cellio♦
1 hour ago
add a comment |
First, as a tip, try to mute your microphone unless you have to speak. That way you will minimize the noise the others in the meeting perceive.
Now, given you are this baby's mother and it's perfectly natural to care for them and feed them, I don't think you have to ask for permission, nor do I think it's possible (or even legal) for them to forbid you to feed your baby.
However, what I suggest is that you inform the others at the beginning of the meeting that your baby is awake, and that some noises may be heard. That way they aren't caught by surprise in case some noises are made.
Edit: As per your comments, seems that you have not discussed with your employer about you caring for your baby while working remote. I second Joe's comment and suggest you bring this up with your manager ASAP, so he/she is also aware of the situation and to see if it's ok for them.
11
I spoke to my boss and he's fine with me looking after her, he said I'm doing a great job. I'm just so relieved.
– singlemom
8 hours ago
@singlemom that's great to hear! It was great you clarified with your boss swiftly :) glad I could help, and welcome to The Workplace BTW
– DarkCygnus
7 hours ago
Thanks! I've always used stackoverflow but didn't realize this one was here too. It's pretty cool. Thanks so much for your help!
– singlemom
7 hours ago
Comments are not for extended discussion; this conversation has been moved to chat.
– Monica Cellio♦
1 hour ago
add a comment |
First, as a tip, try to mute your microphone unless you have to speak. That way you will minimize the noise the others in the meeting perceive.
Now, given you are this baby's mother and it's perfectly natural to care for them and feed them, I don't think you have to ask for permission, nor do I think it's possible (or even legal) for them to forbid you to feed your baby.
However, what I suggest is that you inform the others at the beginning of the meeting that your baby is awake, and that some noises may be heard. That way they aren't caught by surprise in case some noises are made.
Edit: As per your comments, seems that you have not discussed with your employer about you caring for your baby while working remote. I second Joe's comment and suggest you bring this up with your manager ASAP, so he/she is also aware of the situation and to see if it's ok for them.
First, as a tip, try to mute your microphone unless you have to speak. That way you will minimize the noise the others in the meeting perceive.
Now, given you are this baby's mother and it's perfectly natural to care for them and feed them, I don't think you have to ask for permission, nor do I think it's possible (or even legal) for them to forbid you to feed your baby.
However, what I suggest is that you inform the others at the beginning of the meeting that your baby is awake, and that some noises may be heard. That way they aren't caught by surprise in case some noises are made.
Edit: As per your comments, seems that you have not discussed with your employer about you caring for your baby while working remote. I second Joe's comment and suggest you bring this up with your manager ASAP, so he/she is also aware of the situation and to see if it's ok for them.
edited 9 hours ago
answered 10 hours ago
DarkCygnusDarkCygnus
35.9k1672153
35.9k1672153
11
I spoke to my boss and he's fine with me looking after her, he said I'm doing a great job. I'm just so relieved.
– singlemom
8 hours ago
@singlemom that's great to hear! It was great you clarified with your boss swiftly :) glad I could help, and welcome to The Workplace BTW
– DarkCygnus
7 hours ago
Thanks! I've always used stackoverflow but didn't realize this one was here too. It's pretty cool. Thanks so much for your help!
– singlemom
7 hours ago
Comments are not for extended discussion; this conversation has been moved to chat.
– Monica Cellio♦
1 hour ago
add a comment |
11
I spoke to my boss and he's fine with me looking after her, he said I'm doing a great job. I'm just so relieved.
– singlemom
8 hours ago
@singlemom that's great to hear! It was great you clarified with your boss swiftly :) glad I could help, and welcome to The Workplace BTW
– DarkCygnus
7 hours ago
Thanks! I've always used stackoverflow but didn't realize this one was here too. It's pretty cool. Thanks so much for your help!
– singlemom
7 hours ago
Comments are not for extended discussion; this conversation has been moved to chat.
– Monica Cellio♦
1 hour ago
11
11
I spoke to my boss and he's fine with me looking after her, he said I'm doing a great job. I'm just so relieved.
– singlemom
8 hours ago
I spoke to my boss and he's fine with me looking after her, he said I'm doing a great job. I'm just so relieved.
– singlemom
8 hours ago
@singlemom that's great to hear! It was great you clarified with your boss swiftly :) glad I could help, and welcome to The Workplace BTW
– DarkCygnus
7 hours ago
@singlemom that's great to hear! It was great you clarified with your boss swiftly :) glad I could help, and welcome to The Workplace BTW
– DarkCygnus
7 hours ago
Thanks! I've always used stackoverflow but didn't realize this one was here too. It's pretty cool. Thanks so much for your help!
– singlemom
7 hours ago
Thanks! I've always used stackoverflow but didn't realize this one was here too. It's pretty cool. Thanks so much for your help!
– singlemom
7 hours ago
Comments are not for extended discussion; this conversation has been moved to chat.
– Monica Cellio♦
1 hour ago
Comments are not for extended discussion; this conversation has been moved to chat.
– Monica Cellio♦
1 hour ago
add a comment |
It sounds as if the impact on the calls have thus far been minimal - so I don't think you have anything to worry about. An occasional baby gurgling or cooing noise is going to be far less disruptive than a baby screaming in the background because they want to be held and you being distracted with the urge to respond.
Do I ask permission? ("Is it ok if I feed my daughter?")
I'd say no - everyone knows your situation in general terms. Babies don't wait for workplace lunchtimes.
Do I mention it up front? ("Excuse the baby noises, my daughter is in my lap/being fed, etc")
Again I'd say no - you don't, can't know in advance if she's going to have a particularly noisy day. And for the general case, as before, everyone knows your situation and that a baby will be in your vicinity.
Do I only mention it if she makes a noise ("Sorry about that, my daughter is noisy!")
Only if the noise is actually disruptive to the call - say for example you have to ask someone to repeat something because of the noise. And in that scenario it's fine to say something like "Sorry, could you say that again - my daughter made a noise and I didn't catch what you said" - it sounds like most of the time this isn't what's happening though.
Do I just not say anything and ignore her noises?
If they are just in the background and not actually disrupting anything I'd just ignore them.
Do I find some way to work childcare into my already tight budget because this is completely inappropriate?
Unless things change significantly for the worse than what you've described I don't think you need to concern yourself with this. If your work (and those of your colleagues) isn't being significantly impacted then it sounds like the the situation is working as intended - the company gets the benefits of you working earlier than they would have done otherwise and you get the benefits of more time at home with your daughter before returning to the office. If your employer was more of the "Work and babies must never, ever, ever mix!!" persuasion then they probably wouldn't have agreed to your current work-from-home situation in the first place.
PS: Congratulations on the new family member!
This is an excellent answer.
– Fattie
9 hours ago
add a comment |
It sounds as if the impact on the calls have thus far been minimal - so I don't think you have anything to worry about. An occasional baby gurgling or cooing noise is going to be far less disruptive than a baby screaming in the background because they want to be held and you being distracted with the urge to respond.
Do I ask permission? ("Is it ok if I feed my daughter?")
I'd say no - everyone knows your situation in general terms. Babies don't wait for workplace lunchtimes.
Do I mention it up front? ("Excuse the baby noises, my daughter is in my lap/being fed, etc")
Again I'd say no - you don't, can't know in advance if she's going to have a particularly noisy day. And for the general case, as before, everyone knows your situation and that a baby will be in your vicinity.
Do I only mention it if she makes a noise ("Sorry about that, my daughter is noisy!")
Only if the noise is actually disruptive to the call - say for example you have to ask someone to repeat something because of the noise. And in that scenario it's fine to say something like "Sorry, could you say that again - my daughter made a noise and I didn't catch what you said" - it sounds like most of the time this isn't what's happening though.
Do I just not say anything and ignore her noises?
If they are just in the background and not actually disrupting anything I'd just ignore them.
Do I find some way to work childcare into my already tight budget because this is completely inappropriate?
Unless things change significantly for the worse than what you've described I don't think you need to concern yourself with this. If your work (and those of your colleagues) isn't being significantly impacted then it sounds like the the situation is working as intended - the company gets the benefits of you working earlier than they would have done otherwise and you get the benefits of more time at home with your daughter before returning to the office. If your employer was more of the "Work and babies must never, ever, ever mix!!" persuasion then they probably wouldn't have agreed to your current work-from-home situation in the first place.
PS: Congratulations on the new family member!
This is an excellent answer.
– Fattie
9 hours ago
add a comment |
It sounds as if the impact on the calls have thus far been minimal - so I don't think you have anything to worry about. An occasional baby gurgling or cooing noise is going to be far less disruptive than a baby screaming in the background because they want to be held and you being distracted with the urge to respond.
Do I ask permission? ("Is it ok if I feed my daughter?")
I'd say no - everyone knows your situation in general terms. Babies don't wait for workplace lunchtimes.
Do I mention it up front? ("Excuse the baby noises, my daughter is in my lap/being fed, etc")
Again I'd say no - you don't, can't know in advance if she's going to have a particularly noisy day. And for the general case, as before, everyone knows your situation and that a baby will be in your vicinity.
Do I only mention it if she makes a noise ("Sorry about that, my daughter is noisy!")
Only if the noise is actually disruptive to the call - say for example you have to ask someone to repeat something because of the noise. And in that scenario it's fine to say something like "Sorry, could you say that again - my daughter made a noise and I didn't catch what you said" - it sounds like most of the time this isn't what's happening though.
Do I just not say anything and ignore her noises?
If they are just in the background and not actually disrupting anything I'd just ignore them.
Do I find some way to work childcare into my already tight budget because this is completely inappropriate?
Unless things change significantly for the worse than what you've described I don't think you need to concern yourself with this. If your work (and those of your colleagues) isn't being significantly impacted then it sounds like the the situation is working as intended - the company gets the benefits of you working earlier than they would have done otherwise and you get the benefits of more time at home with your daughter before returning to the office. If your employer was more of the "Work and babies must never, ever, ever mix!!" persuasion then they probably wouldn't have agreed to your current work-from-home situation in the first place.
PS: Congratulations on the new family member!
It sounds as if the impact on the calls have thus far been minimal - so I don't think you have anything to worry about. An occasional baby gurgling or cooing noise is going to be far less disruptive than a baby screaming in the background because they want to be held and you being distracted with the urge to respond.
Do I ask permission? ("Is it ok if I feed my daughter?")
I'd say no - everyone knows your situation in general terms. Babies don't wait for workplace lunchtimes.
Do I mention it up front? ("Excuse the baby noises, my daughter is in my lap/being fed, etc")
Again I'd say no - you don't, can't know in advance if she's going to have a particularly noisy day. And for the general case, as before, everyone knows your situation and that a baby will be in your vicinity.
Do I only mention it if she makes a noise ("Sorry about that, my daughter is noisy!")
Only if the noise is actually disruptive to the call - say for example you have to ask someone to repeat something because of the noise. And in that scenario it's fine to say something like "Sorry, could you say that again - my daughter made a noise and I didn't catch what you said" - it sounds like most of the time this isn't what's happening though.
Do I just not say anything and ignore her noises?
If they are just in the background and not actually disrupting anything I'd just ignore them.
Do I find some way to work childcare into my already tight budget because this is completely inappropriate?
Unless things change significantly for the worse than what you've described I don't think you need to concern yourself with this. If your work (and those of your colleagues) isn't being significantly impacted then it sounds like the the situation is working as intended - the company gets the benefits of you working earlier than they would have done otherwise and you get the benefits of more time at home with your daughter before returning to the office. If your employer was more of the "Work and babies must never, ever, ever mix!!" persuasion then they probably wouldn't have agreed to your current work-from-home situation in the first place.
PS: Congratulations on the new family member!
answered 9 hours ago
motosubatsumotosubatsu
47.4k26127186
47.4k26127186
This is an excellent answer.
– Fattie
9 hours ago
add a comment |
This is an excellent answer.
– Fattie
9 hours ago
This is an excellent answer.
– Fattie
9 hours ago
This is an excellent answer.
– Fattie
9 hours ago
add a comment |
For meetings with your immediate team: don't mention it unless they do, and try to keep on mute during noisy times. If they bring it up, a brief apology or joking it off works. I also work remote full time, and that's how I handle my sometimes-noisy dogs. If you have a headset instead of a microphone that picks up more ambient noise, that helps too.
For higher profile meetings: try to arrange for a babysitter or schedule during naps so you can focus solely on your job. If baby makes a loud noise, apologize when it happens and not in advance.
I would also have a conversation now with your boss about if they expect you to have childcare while you are working, especially when your baby starts crawling around and needing more stimulation. Better to be prepared and start budgeting for it now than be surprised later on.
For a contrary view. A client I was working for, another party had a dog that barked during calls. It happened once, and then the second day it happened the person was summarily terminated directly after the meeting because of it. It's something you have to be careful about.
– Fattie
9 hours ago
1
Fortunately I'm not involved in high-profile calls. But I do plan on organising some kind of childcare in a couple of months time.
– singlemom
9 hours ago
@Fattie wow that seems really extreme! Hopefully they at least got a warning about it the first time so they could take measures against the noise.
– taffy
8 hours ago
@singlemom.. Fattie's story is the point I was trying to drive home in the other comments. I think its professional and acceptable to up front about your situation but at the same time you always have to consider reducing your risk of being hit by the bus. If I were your client, I would appreciate the heads up and give "baby on the other end of the line" a few chances. At the same time, I dont have kids and am not used to the cries of an infant.. (im sure little noises arent a problem).. When I hear it on TV or at a friend's, my train of thought is obliterated.. Not good for working
– Smitty
8 hours ago
1
@Fattie lol.. Ive gotten in trouble for saying "that is some sexy looking code" at the wrong time... I think I am learning that you and I have similar scars from the High Power Enterprise Software wars of the last decade
– Smitty
8 hours ago
|
show 4 more comments
For meetings with your immediate team: don't mention it unless they do, and try to keep on mute during noisy times. If they bring it up, a brief apology or joking it off works. I also work remote full time, and that's how I handle my sometimes-noisy dogs. If you have a headset instead of a microphone that picks up more ambient noise, that helps too.
For higher profile meetings: try to arrange for a babysitter or schedule during naps so you can focus solely on your job. If baby makes a loud noise, apologize when it happens and not in advance.
I would also have a conversation now with your boss about if they expect you to have childcare while you are working, especially when your baby starts crawling around and needing more stimulation. Better to be prepared and start budgeting for it now than be surprised later on.
For a contrary view. A client I was working for, another party had a dog that barked during calls. It happened once, and then the second day it happened the person was summarily terminated directly after the meeting because of it. It's something you have to be careful about.
– Fattie
9 hours ago
1
Fortunately I'm not involved in high-profile calls. But I do plan on organising some kind of childcare in a couple of months time.
– singlemom
9 hours ago
@Fattie wow that seems really extreme! Hopefully they at least got a warning about it the first time so they could take measures against the noise.
– taffy
8 hours ago
@singlemom.. Fattie's story is the point I was trying to drive home in the other comments. I think its professional and acceptable to up front about your situation but at the same time you always have to consider reducing your risk of being hit by the bus. If I were your client, I would appreciate the heads up and give "baby on the other end of the line" a few chances. At the same time, I dont have kids and am not used to the cries of an infant.. (im sure little noises arent a problem).. When I hear it on TV or at a friend's, my train of thought is obliterated.. Not good for working
– Smitty
8 hours ago
1
@Fattie lol.. Ive gotten in trouble for saying "that is some sexy looking code" at the wrong time... I think I am learning that you and I have similar scars from the High Power Enterprise Software wars of the last decade
– Smitty
8 hours ago
|
show 4 more comments
For meetings with your immediate team: don't mention it unless they do, and try to keep on mute during noisy times. If they bring it up, a brief apology or joking it off works. I also work remote full time, and that's how I handle my sometimes-noisy dogs. If you have a headset instead of a microphone that picks up more ambient noise, that helps too.
For higher profile meetings: try to arrange for a babysitter or schedule during naps so you can focus solely on your job. If baby makes a loud noise, apologize when it happens and not in advance.
I would also have a conversation now with your boss about if they expect you to have childcare while you are working, especially when your baby starts crawling around and needing more stimulation. Better to be prepared and start budgeting for it now than be surprised later on.
For meetings with your immediate team: don't mention it unless they do, and try to keep on mute during noisy times. If they bring it up, a brief apology or joking it off works. I also work remote full time, and that's how I handle my sometimes-noisy dogs. If you have a headset instead of a microphone that picks up more ambient noise, that helps too.
For higher profile meetings: try to arrange for a babysitter or schedule during naps so you can focus solely on your job. If baby makes a loud noise, apologize when it happens and not in advance.
I would also have a conversation now with your boss about if they expect you to have childcare while you are working, especially when your baby starts crawling around and needing more stimulation. Better to be prepared and start budgeting for it now than be surprised later on.
answered 9 hours ago
taffytaffy
2,50011421
2,50011421
For a contrary view. A client I was working for, another party had a dog that barked during calls. It happened once, and then the second day it happened the person was summarily terminated directly after the meeting because of it. It's something you have to be careful about.
– Fattie
9 hours ago
1
Fortunately I'm not involved in high-profile calls. But I do plan on organising some kind of childcare in a couple of months time.
– singlemom
9 hours ago
@Fattie wow that seems really extreme! Hopefully they at least got a warning about it the first time so they could take measures against the noise.
– taffy
8 hours ago
@singlemom.. Fattie's story is the point I was trying to drive home in the other comments. I think its professional and acceptable to up front about your situation but at the same time you always have to consider reducing your risk of being hit by the bus. If I were your client, I would appreciate the heads up and give "baby on the other end of the line" a few chances. At the same time, I dont have kids and am not used to the cries of an infant.. (im sure little noises arent a problem).. When I hear it on TV or at a friend's, my train of thought is obliterated.. Not good for working
– Smitty
8 hours ago
1
@Fattie lol.. Ive gotten in trouble for saying "that is some sexy looking code" at the wrong time... I think I am learning that you and I have similar scars from the High Power Enterprise Software wars of the last decade
– Smitty
8 hours ago
|
show 4 more comments
For a contrary view. A client I was working for, another party had a dog that barked during calls. It happened once, and then the second day it happened the person was summarily terminated directly after the meeting because of it. It's something you have to be careful about.
– Fattie
9 hours ago
1
Fortunately I'm not involved in high-profile calls. But I do plan on organising some kind of childcare in a couple of months time.
– singlemom
9 hours ago
@Fattie wow that seems really extreme! Hopefully they at least got a warning about it the first time so they could take measures against the noise.
– taffy
8 hours ago
@singlemom.. Fattie's story is the point I was trying to drive home in the other comments. I think its professional and acceptable to up front about your situation but at the same time you always have to consider reducing your risk of being hit by the bus. If I were your client, I would appreciate the heads up and give "baby on the other end of the line" a few chances. At the same time, I dont have kids and am not used to the cries of an infant.. (im sure little noises arent a problem).. When I hear it on TV or at a friend's, my train of thought is obliterated.. Not good for working
– Smitty
8 hours ago
1
@Fattie lol.. Ive gotten in trouble for saying "that is some sexy looking code" at the wrong time... I think I am learning that you and I have similar scars from the High Power Enterprise Software wars of the last decade
– Smitty
8 hours ago
For a contrary view. A client I was working for, another party had a dog that barked during calls. It happened once, and then the second day it happened the person was summarily terminated directly after the meeting because of it. It's something you have to be careful about.
– Fattie
9 hours ago
For a contrary view. A client I was working for, another party had a dog that barked during calls. It happened once, and then the second day it happened the person was summarily terminated directly after the meeting because of it. It's something you have to be careful about.
– Fattie
9 hours ago
1
1
Fortunately I'm not involved in high-profile calls. But I do plan on organising some kind of childcare in a couple of months time.
– singlemom
9 hours ago
Fortunately I'm not involved in high-profile calls. But I do plan on organising some kind of childcare in a couple of months time.
– singlemom
9 hours ago
@Fattie wow that seems really extreme! Hopefully they at least got a warning about it the first time so they could take measures against the noise.
– taffy
8 hours ago
@Fattie wow that seems really extreme! Hopefully they at least got a warning about it the first time so they could take measures against the noise.
– taffy
8 hours ago
@singlemom.. Fattie's story is the point I was trying to drive home in the other comments. I think its professional and acceptable to up front about your situation but at the same time you always have to consider reducing your risk of being hit by the bus. If I were your client, I would appreciate the heads up and give "baby on the other end of the line" a few chances. At the same time, I dont have kids and am not used to the cries of an infant.. (im sure little noises arent a problem).. When I hear it on TV or at a friend's, my train of thought is obliterated.. Not good for working
– Smitty
8 hours ago
@singlemom.. Fattie's story is the point I was trying to drive home in the other comments. I think its professional and acceptable to up front about your situation but at the same time you always have to consider reducing your risk of being hit by the bus. If I were your client, I would appreciate the heads up and give "baby on the other end of the line" a few chances. At the same time, I dont have kids and am not used to the cries of an infant.. (im sure little noises arent a problem).. When I hear it on TV or at a friend's, my train of thought is obliterated.. Not good for working
– Smitty
8 hours ago
1
1
@Fattie lol.. Ive gotten in trouble for saying "that is some sexy looking code" at the wrong time... I think I am learning that you and I have similar scars from the High Power Enterprise Software wars of the last decade
– Smitty
8 hours ago
@Fattie lol.. Ive gotten in trouble for saying "that is some sexy looking code" at the wrong time... I think I am learning that you and I have similar scars from the High Power Enterprise Software wars of the last decade
– Smitty
8 hours ago
|
show 4 more comments
It depends somewhat on your relationship to the other folks in the meeting, but for routine meetings with team members, I wouldn’t say anything until and unless it becomes a problem for someone. Just use the mute button when you’re not talking and everything should be fine.
For special meetings with higher-ups or new clients, I’d try as hard as possible to hold them during naps, but failing that, I’d still do things the same way: apologize if and only if it becomes necessary.
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It depends somewhat on your relationship to the other folks in the meeting, but for routine meetings with team members, I wouldn’t say anything until and unless it becomes a problem for someone. Just use the mute button when you’re not talking and everything should be fine.
For special meetings with higher-ups or new clients, I’d try as hard as possible to hold them during naps, but failing that, I’d still do things the same way: apologize if and only if it becomes necessary.
add a comment |
It depends somewhat on your relationship to the other folks in the meeting, but for routine meetings with team members, I wouldn’t say anything until and unless it becomes a problem for someone. Just use the mute button when you’re not talking and everything should be fine.
For special meetings with higher-ups or new clients, I’d try as hard as possible to hold them during naps, but failing that, I’d still do things the same way: apologize if and only if it becomes necessary.
It depends somewhat on your relationship to the other folks in the meeting, but for routine meetings with team members, I wouldn’t say anything until and unless it becomes a problem for someone. Just use the mute button when you’re not talking and everything should be fine.
For special meetings with higher-ups or new clients, I’d try as hard as possible to hold them during naps, but failing that, I’d still do things the same way: apologize if and only if it becomes necessary.
answered 10 hours ago
Ernest Friedman-HillErnest Friedman-Hill
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Can you afford a noise-cancelling microphone? https://www.amazon.com/Olympus-ME-52W-Noise-Canceling-Microphone/dp/B000MYPPPE?ref_=fsclp_pl_dp_1
If yes then go buy one.
After you buy one then have another person help you test out its noise-cancelling power since every brand could have different levels of noise-cancelling effect.
You should always mute yourself when you are not speaking but for the times that you do need to speak your microphone can help to mitigate background noises.
If the noises are troublesome then hopefully someone makes you aware that they cannot hear/understand you and you can use that opportunity to briefly apologize.
If the noises are frequently interfering with the meeting then you must figure out a different arrangement for your child during these meetings.
Oh, nice, I didn't know those existed. That doesn't seem too expensive either as far as microphones go. I'm currently using a pair of earbuds with the mic in the cable, but those need to go at some point before my daughter starts grabbing the wires. This is a good candidate for the replacement.
– singlemom
7 hours ago
@singlemom You can also look into noise cancelling headsets jabra.com/fq/best-noise-cancelling-headsets-for-a-call-center so that you can go completely hands and wire-free. bestbuy.com/site/…
– MonkeyZeus
7 hours ago
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Can you afford a noise-cancelling microphone? https://www.amazon.com/Olympus-ME-52W-Noise-Canceling-Microphone/dp/B000MYPPPE?ref_=fsclp_pl_dp_1
If yes then go buy one.
After you buy one then have another person help you test out its noise-cancelling power since every brand could have different levels of noise-cancelling effect.
You should always mute yourself when you are not speaking but for the times that you do need to speak your microphone can help to mitigate background noises.
If the noises are troublesome then hopefully someone makes you aware that they cannot hear/understand you and you can use that opportunity to briefly apologize.
If the noises are frequently interfering with the meeting then you must figure out a different arrangement for your child during these meetings.
Oh, nice, I didn't know those existed. That doesn't seem too expensive either as far as microphones go. I'm currently using a pair of earbuds with the mic in the cable, but those need to go at some point before my daughter starts grabbing the wires. This is a good candidate for the replacement.
– singlemom
7 hours ago
@singlemom You can also look into noise cancelling headsets jabra.com/fq/best-noise-cancelling-headsets-for-a-call-center so that you can go completely hands and wire-free. bestbuy.com/site/…
– MonkeyZeus
7 hours ago
add a comment |
Can you afford a noise-cancelling microphone? https://www.amazon.com/Olympus-ME-52W-Noise-Canceling-Microphone/dp/B000MYPPPE?ref_=fsclp_pl_dp_1
If yes then go buy one.
After you buy one then have another person help you test out its noise-cancelling power since every brand could have different levels of noise-cancelling effect.
You should always mute yourself when you are not speaking but for the times that you do need to speak your microphone can help to mitigate background noises.
If the noises are troublesome then hopefully someone makes you aware that they cannot hear/understand you and you can use that opportunity to briefly apologize.
If the noises are frequently interfering with the meeting then you must figure out a different arrangement for your child during these meetings.
Can you afford a noise-cancelling microphone? https://www.amazon.com/Olympus-ME-52W-Noise-Canceling-Microphone/dp/B000MYPPPE?ref_=fsclp_pl_dp_1
If yes then go buy one.
After you buy one then have another person help you test out its noise-cancelling power since every brand could have different levels of noise-cancelling effect.
You should always mute yourself when you are not speaking but for the times that you do need to speak your microphone can help to mitigate background noises.
If the noises are troublesome then hopefully someone makes you aware that they cannot hear/understand you and you can use that opportunity to briefly apologize.
If the noises are frequently interfering with the meeting then you must figure out a different arrangement for your child during these meetings.
edited 7 hours ago
answered 8 hours ago
MonkeyZeusMonkeyZeus
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Oh, nice, I didn't know those existed. That doesn't seem too expensive either as far as microphones go. I'm currently using a pair of earbuds with the mic in the cable, but those need to go at some point before my daughter starts grabbing the wires. This is a good candidate for the replacement.
– singlemom
7 hours ago
@singlemom You can also look into noise cancelling headsets jabra.com/fq/best-noise-cancelling-headsets-for-a-call-center so that you can go completely hands and wire-free. bestbuy.com/site/…
– MonkeyZeus
7 hours ago
add a comment |
Oh, nice, I didn't know those existed. That doesn't seem too expensive either as far as microphones go. I'm currently using a pair of earbuds with the mic in the cable, but those need to go at some point before my daughter starts grabbing the wires. This is a good candidate for the replacement.
– singlemom
7 hours ago
@singlemom You can also look into noise cancelling headsets jabra.com/fq/best-noise-cancelling-headsets-for-a-call-center so that you can go completely hands and wire-free. bestbuy.com/site/…
– MonkeyZeus
7 hours ago
Oh, nice, I didn't know those existed. That doesn't seem too expensive either as far as microphones go. I'm currently using a pair of earbuds with the mic in the cable, but those need to go at some point before my daughter starts grabbing the wires. This is a good candidate for the replacement.
– singlemom
7 hours ago
Oh, nice, I didn't know those existed. That doesn't seem too expensive either as far as microphones go. I'm currently using a pair of earbuds with the mic in the cable, but those need to go at some point before my daughter starts grabbing the wires. This is a good candidate for the replacement.
– singlemom
7 hours ago
@singlemom You can also look into noise cancelling headsets jabra.com/fq/best-noise-cancelling-headsets-for-a-call-center so that you can go completely hands and wire-free. bestbuy.com/site/…
– MonkeyZeus
7 hours ago
@singlemom You can also look into noise cancelling headsets jabra.com/fq/best-noise-cancelling-headsets-for-a-call-center so that you can go completely hands and wire-free. bestbuy.com/site/…
– MonkeyZeus
7 hours ago
add a comment |
As everyone has said, for God's sake do not do either of these two
Do I ask permission? ("Is it ok if I feed my daughter?")
Do I mention it up front? ("Excuse the baby noises, my daughter is in my lap/being fed, etc")
With this one:
- Do I only mention it if she makes a noise ("Sorry about that, my daughter is noisy!")
If there is unfortunately a noise, just say "oh sorry" and press on. Do NOT say "oh sorry the dog barked / baby woke / UPS arrived". It's wholly annoying.
- Do I find some way to work childcare into my already tight budget because this is completely inappropriate?
Unfortunately, do not dismiss this. Your AAAAA priority is keeping your career absolutely on track. Be aware, let us say, that in some situations this would indeed be the answer. Example: you find yourself in a higher paying remote job (yay!); then yes, you need some sort of au pair, a local teenager who is there some hours, or the like.
On the technical front:
- as everyone has said, get good at using the mute button
- it could be (I don't know - let's hear from a geeky audio expert) that one of those headset microphones has some sort of noise cancelling effect, or at least reduces ambient noise
Now, as everyone has said:
You need to talk to your boss about this up front now!
Naturally, you then ask ......
But Fattie, what language do I use?
You want to keep it minimal, clear, professional and a fait accompli.
Do NOT beg or ask for favors. Do NOT minimize the situation - but do not maximize it.
DO NOT specifically mention "feeding" or "breast feeding" - just "baby noise in general".
Example emails:
"Hey Steve, one thing. As you know I now have the baby. This is great as I'm working harder than ever - no distractions, no going out! One thing Im concerned about - what if there's ever some baby noise in the background, when we're having a call with the guys? Would you give me your thoughts on this?
or what about
"Hey Steve, I have a concern about our daily calls. As you know there's a baby in my house here now! Im concerned ... what if there's ever some baby noise in the background, when we're having a call with the guys? As you know I'm more dedicated to the project than ever now there's a baby around - but this one thing has me nervous. I'd die if there was some sudden baby noise during a call - can you give me your thoughts?
(As always in negotiation, end with a question to the other party.)
Notice you are being
- Brief - BREIF, BRIEF, BRIEF, do not make this an issue. It isn't
- Overboard with positveness
- NOT mentioning detail like the "type" of noise
- as always, end with a question
You should essentially send one of these emails or texts now today. (It's 12 in Dallas!) If using skype/chat whatever, I'd possibly send it on the everyone channel, but addressed to "Steve" (Boss) as here - it makes it less dramatic and includes everyone.
I'd give more examples but I have to go help some adult babies! :O
I like the first example email, as it's on point and asks for boss' thoughts (rather than saying, "this is a problem, right?")
– DarkCygnus
8 hours ago
@DarkCygnus , putting aside our personal Feud, I feel that YOU should contribute some "actual example emails" because other than me, you're best at that on the list - and this QA is a very worthy cause. Plus you'd give a different spin.
– Fattie
8 hours ago
Didn't know this was a "feud" :) just creative tension ;) I actually think your first sample is great, and I don't think I could word it differently (perhaps just word choice, but core message and assertiveness not). If I come up with a different phrasing I'll consider including it in my answer, otherwise I'd go with your phrasing (perhaps even give Boss a call or virtual meeting as an alternative to emails). Still, emails is good because of the paper trail it leaves as evidence of Boss' answer
– DarkCygnus
8 hours ago
Hell - maybe it was someone else. Sorry! :O Hic
– Fattie
8 hours ago
I spoke to my boss about everything. He's fine with it. Yay! I feel so much better. He said it's no problem and he understands and I'm doing a great job.
– singlemom
7 hours ago
|
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As everyone has said, for God's sake do not do either of these two
Do I ask permission? ("Is it ok if I feed my daughter?")
Do I mention it up front? ("Excuse the baby noises, my daughter is in my lap/being fed, etc")
With this one:
- Do I only mention it if she makes a noise ("Sorry about that, my daughter is noisy!")
If there is unfortunately a noise, just say "oh sorry" and press on. Do NOT say "oh sorry the dog barked / baby woke / UPS arrived". It's wholly annoying.
- Do I find some way to work childcare into my already tight budget because this is completely inappropriate?
Unfortunately, do not dismiss this. Your AAAAA priority is keeping your career absolutely on track. Be aware, let us say, that in some situations this would indeed be the answer. Example: you find yourself in a higher paying remote job (yay!); then yes, you need some sort of au pair, a local teenager who is there some hours, or the like.
On the technical front:
- as everyone has said, get good at using the mute button
- it could be (I don't know - let's hear from a geeky audio expert) that one of those headset microphones has some sort of noise cancelling effect, or at least reduces ambient noise
Now, as everyone has said:
You need to talk to your boss about this up front now!
Naturally, you then ask ......
But Fattie, what language do I use?
You want to keep it minimal, clear, professional and a fait accompli.
Do NOT beg or ask for favors. Do NOT minimize the situation - but do not maximize it.
DO NOT specifically mention "feeding" or "breast feeding" - just "baby noise in general".
Example emails:
"Hey Steve, one thing. As you know I now have the baby. This is great as I'm working harder than ever - no distractions, no going out! One thing Im concerned about - what if there's ever some baby noise in the background, when we're having a call with the guys? Would you give me your thoughts on this?
or what about
"Hey Steve, I have a concern about our daily calls. As you know there's a baby in my house here now! Im concerned ... what if there's ever some baby noise in the background, when we're having a call with the guys? As you know I'm more dedicated to the project than ever now there's a baby around - but this one thing has me nervous. I'd die if there was some sudden baby noise during a call - can you give me your thoughts?
(As always in negotiation, end with a question to the other party.)
Notice you are being
- Brief - BREIF, BRIEF, BRIEF, do not make this an issue. It isn't
- Overboard with positveness
- NOT mentioning detail like the "type" of noise
- as always, end with a question
You should essentially send one of these emails or texts now today. (It's 12 in Dallas!) If using skype/chat whatever, I'd possibly send it on the everyone channel, but addressed to "Steve" (Boss) as here - it makes it less dramatic and includes everyone.
I'd give more examples but I have to go help some adult babies! :O
I like the first example email, as it's on point and asks for boss' thoughts (rather than saying, "this is a problem, right?")
– DarkCygnus
8 hours ago
@DarkCygnus , putting aside our personal Feud, I feel that YOU should contribute some "actual example emails" because other than me, you're best at that on the list - and this QA is a very worthy cause. Plus you'd give a different spin.
– Fattie
8 hours ago
Didn't know this was a "feud" :) just creative tension ;) I actually think your first sample is great, and I don't think I could word it differently (perhaps just word choice, but core message and assertiveness not). If I come up with a different phrasing I'll consider including it in my answer, otherwise I'd go with your phrasing (perhaps even give Boss a call or virtual meeting as an alternative to emails). Still, emails is good because of the paper trail it leaves as evidence of Boss' answer
– DarkCygnus
8 hours ago
Hell - maybe it was someone else. Sorry! :O Hic
– Fattie
8 hours ago
I spoke to my boss about everything. He's fine with it. Yay! I feel so much better. He said it's no problem and he understands and I'm doing a great job.
– singlemom
7 hours ago
|
show 2 more comments
As everyone has said, for God's sake do not do either of these two
Do I ask permission? ("Is it ok if I feed my daughter?")
Do I mention it up front? ("Excuse the baby noises, my daughter is in my lap/being fed, etc")
With this one:
- Do I only mention it if she makes a noise ("Sorry about that, my daughter is noisy!")
If there is unfortunately a noise, just say "oh sorry" and press on. Do NOT say "oh sorry the dog barked / baby woke / UPS arrived". It's wholly annoying.
- Do I find some way to work childcare into my already tight budget because this is completely inappropriate?
Unfortunately, do not dismiss this. Your AAAAA priority is keeping your career absolutely on track. Be aware, let us say, that in some situations this would indeed be the answer. Example: you find yourself in a higher paying remote job (yay!); then yes, you need some sort of au pair, a local teenager who is there some hours, or the like.
On the technical front:
- as everyone has said, get good at using the mute button
- it could be (I don't know - let's hear from a geeky audio expert) that one of those headset microphones has some sort of noise cancelling effect, or at least reduces ambient noise
Now, as everyone has said:
You need to talk to your boss about this up front now!
Naturally, you then ask ......
But Fattie, what language do I use?
You want to keep it minimal, clear, professional and a fait accompli.
Do NOT beg or ask for favors. Do NOT minimize the situation - but do not maximize it.
DO NOT specifically mention "feeding" or "breast feeding" - just "baby noise in general".
Example emails:
"Hey Steve, one thing. As you know I now have the baby. This is great as I'm working harder than ever - no distractions, no going out! One thing Im concerned about - what if there's ever some baby noise in the background, when we're having a call with the guys? Would you give me your thoughts on this?
or what about
"Hey Steve, I have a concern about our daily calls. As you know there's a baby in my house here now! Im concerned ... what if there's ever some baby noise in the background, when we're having a call with the guys? As you know I'm more dedicated to the project than ever now there's a baby around - but this one thing has me nervous. I'd die if there was some sudden baby noise during a call - can you give me your thoughts?
(As always in negotiation, end with a question to the other party.)
Notice you are being
- Brief - BREIF, BRIEF, BRIEF, do not make this an issue. It isn't
- Overboard with positveness
- NOT mentioning detail like the "type" of noise
- as always, end with a question
You should essentially send one of these emails or texts now today. (It's 12 in Dallas!) If using skype/chat whatever, I'd possibly send it on the everyone channel, but addressed to "Steve" (Boss) as here - it makes it less dramatic and includes everyone.
I'd give more examples but I have to go help some adult babies! :O
As everyone has said, for God's sake do not do either of these two
Do I ask permission? ("Is it ok if I feed my daughter?")
Do I mention it up front? ("Excuse the baby noises, my daughter is in my lap/being fed, etc")
With this one:
- Do I only mention it if she makes a noise ("Sorry about that, my daughter is noisy!")
If there is unfortunately a noise, just say "oh sorry" and press on. Do NOT say "oh sorry the dog barked / baby woke / UPS arrived". It's wholly annoying.
- Do I find some way to work childcare into my already tight budget because this is completely inappropriate?
Unfortunately, do not dismiss this. Your AAAAA priority is keeping your career absolutely on track. Be aware, let us say, that in some situations this would indeed be the answer. Example: you find yourself in a higher paying remote job (yay!); then yes, you need some sort of au pair, a local teenager who is there some hours, or the like.
On the technical front:
- as everyone has said, get good at using the mute button
- it could be (I don't know - let's hear from a geeky audio expert) that one of those headset microphones has some sort of noise cancelling effect, or at least reduces ambient noise
Now, as everyone has said:
You need to talk to your boss about this up front now!
Naturally, you then ask ......
But Fattie, what language do I use?
You want to keep it minimal, clear, professional and a fait accompli.
Do NOT beg or ask for favors. Do NOT minimize the situation - but do not maximize it.
DO NOT specifically mention "feeding" or "breast feeding" - just "baby noise in general".
Example emails:
"Hey Steve, one thing. As you know I now have the baby. This is great as I'm working harder than ever - no distractions, no going out! One thing Im concerned about - what if there's ever some baby noise in the background, when we're having a call with the guys? Would you give me your thoughts on this?
or what about
"Hey Steve, I have a concern about our daily calls. As you know there's a baby in my house here now! Im concerned ... what if there's ever some baby noise in the background, when we're having a call with the guys? As you know I'm more dedicated to the project than ever now there's a baby around - but this one thing has me nervous. I'd die if there was some sudden baby noise during a call - can you give me your thoughts?
(As always in negotiation, end with a question to the other party.)
Notice you are being
- Brief - BREIF, BRIEF, BRIEF, do not make this an issue. It isn't
- Overboard with positveness
- NOT mentioning detail like the "type" of noise
- as always, end with a question
You should essentially send one of these emails or texts now today. (It's 12 in Dallas!) If using skype/chat whatever, I'd possibly send it on the everyone channel, but addressed to "Steve" (Boss) as here - it makes it less dramatic and includes everyone.
I'd give more examples but I have to go help some adult babies! :O
answered 8 hours ago
FattieFattie
10.6k51933
10.6k51933
I like the first example email, as it's on point and asks for boss' thoughts (rather than saying, "this is a problem, right?")
– DarkCygnus
8 hours ago
@DarkCygnus , putting aside our personal Feud, I feel that YOU should contribute some "actual example emails" because other than me, you're best at that on the list - and this QA is a very worthy cause. Plus you'd give a different spin.
– Fattie
8 hours ago
Didn't know this was a "feud" :) just creative tension ;) I actually think your first sample is great, and I don't think I could word it differently (perhaps just word choice, but core message and assertiveness not). If I come up with a different phrasing I'll consider including it in my answer, otherwise I'd go with your phrasing (perhaps even give Boss a call or virtual meeting as an alternative to emails). Still, emails is good because of the paper trail it leaves as evidence of Boss' answer
– DarkCygnus
8 hours ago
Hell - maybe it was someone else. Sorry! :O Hic
– Fattie
8 hours ago
I spoke to my boss about everything. He's fine with it. Yay! I feel so much better. He said it's no problem and he understands and I'm doing a great job.
– singlemom
7 hours ago
|
show 2 more comments
I like the first example email, as it's on point and asks for boss' thoughts (rather than saying, "this is a problem, right?")
– DarkCygnus
8 hours ago
@DarkCygnus , putting aside our personal Feud, I feel that YOU should contribute some "actual example emails" because other than me, you're best at that on the list - and this QA is a very worthy cause. Plus you'd give a different spin.
– Fattie
8 hours ago
Didn't know this was a "feud" :) just creative tension ;) I actually think your first sample is great, and I don't think I could word it differently (perhaps just word choice, but core message and assertiveness not). If I come up with a different phrasing I'll consider including it in my answer, otherwise I'd go with your phrasing (perhaps even give Boss a call or virtual meeting as an alternative to emails). Still, emails is good because of the paper trail it leaves as evidence of Boss' answer
– DarkCygnus
8 hours ago
Hell - maybe it was someone else. Sorry! :O Hic
– Fattie
8 hours ago
I spoke to my boss about everything. He's fine with it. Yay! I feel so much better. He said it's no problem and he understands and I'm doing a great job.
– singlemom
7 hours ago
I like the first example email, as it's on point and asks for boss' thoughts (rather than saying, "this is a problem, right?")
– DarkCygnus
8 hours ago
I like the first example email, as it's on point and asks for boss' thoughts (rather than saying, "this is a problem, right?")
– DarkCygnus
8 hours ago
@DarkCygnus , putting aside our personal Feud, I feel that YOU should contribute some "actual example emails" because other than me, you're best at that on the list - and this QA is a very worthy cause. Plus you'd give a different spin.
– Fattie
8 hours ago
@DarkCygnus , putting aside our personal Feud, I feel that YOU should contribute some "actual example emails" because other than me, you're best at that on the list - and this QA is a very worthy cause. Plus you'd give a different spin.
– Fattie
8 hours ago
Didn't know this was a "feud" :) just creative tension ;) I actually think your first sample is great, and I don't think I could word it differently (perhaps just word choice, but core message and assertiveness not). If I come up with a different phrasing I'll consider including it in my answer, otherwise I'd go with your phrasing (perhaps even give Boss a call or virtual meeting as an alternative to emails). Still, emails is good because of the paper trail it leaves as evidence of Boss' answer
– DarkCygnus
8 hours ago
Didn't know this was a "feud" :) just creative tension ;) I actually think your first sample is great, and I don't think I could word it differently (perhaps just word choice, but core message and assertiveness not). If I come up with a different phrasing I'll consider including it in my answer, otherwise I'd go with your phrasing (perhaps even give Boss a call or virtual meeting as an alternative to emails). Still, emails is good because of the paper trail it leaves as evidence of Boss' answer
– DarkCygnus
8 hours ago
Hell - maybe it was someone else. Sorry! :O Hic
– Fattie
8 hours ago
Hell - maybe it was someone else. Sorry! :O Hic
– Fattie
8 hours ago
I spoke to my boss about everything. He's fine with it. Yay! I feel so much better. He said it's no problem and he understands and I'm doing a great job.
– singlemom
7 hours ago
I spoke to my boss about everything. He's fine with it. Yay! I feel so much better. He said it's no problem and he understands and I'm doing a great job.
– singlemom
7 hours ago
|
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It's flat out not appropriate to breast feed during a conference call in an office environment. That being said, there's really no way around it since the issue is random baby noises. Just tell your employer ahead of time and don't worry too much about the noise.
This is one of those things, that's just going to happen so it doesn't really matter if it's appropriate. Another good thing about your situation is that it sounds like you work from home. If that's the case, then random noise should be expected. I'd expect the atmosphere at your job to be more relaxed too. If that's the case then I don't think anyone will actually care. You should be fine.
If you don't work from home, just make sure you're not flashing your coworkers.
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It's flat out not appropriate to breast feed during a conference call in an office environment. That being said, there's really no way around it since the issue is random baby noises. Just tell your employer ahead of time and don't worry too much about the noise.
This is one of those things, that's just going to happen so it doesn't really matter if it's appropriate. Another good thing about your situation is that it sounds like you work from home. If that's the case, then random noise should be expected. I'd expect the atmosphere at your job to be more relaxed too. If that's the case then I don't think anyone will actually care. You should be fine.
If you don't work from home, just make sure you're not flashing your coworkers.
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It's flat out not appropriate to breast feed during a conference call in an office environment. That being said, there's really no way around it since the issue is random baby noises. Just tell your employer ahead of time and don't worry too much about the noise.
This is one of those things, that's just going to happen so it doesn't really matter if it's appropriate. Another good thing about your situation is that it sounds like you work from home. If that's the case, then random noise should be expected. I'd expect the atmosphere at your job to be more relaxed too. If that's the case then I don't think anyone will actually care. You should be fine.
If you don't work from home, just make sure you're not flashing your coworkers.
It's flat out not appropriate to breast feed during a conference call in an office environment. That being said, there's really no way around it since the issue is random baby noises. Just tell your employer ahead of time and don't worry too much about the noise.
This is one of those things, that's just going to happen so it doesn't really matter if it's appropriate. Another good thing about your situation is that it sounds like you work from home. If that's the case, then random noise should be expected. I'd expect the atmosphere at your job to be more relaxed too. If that's the case then I don't think anyone will actually care. You should be fine.
If you don't work from home, just make sure you're not flashing your coworkers.
answered 7 hours ago
SteveSteve
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One thing worth noting is that breast-feeding sometimes isn't enough and the babies keep crying and seem needy. usually an extra bottle is enough, sometimes it's just a few milliliters they need.
About the question: I would wait until you have a really noisy episode and then ask "sorry, is it too loud? the baby is very hungry today." but in general that is more distracting than if you just ignore it and repeat the part that probably got lost. Too many explanations and excuses will distract everyone, so just go like "We should use framework XY because it has ... SLUUURP ... because it has features A, B and C while the other frameworks usua .... SLUUUUUUURP .. usually have only two of them."
After having conferences with customers who had their windows open all the time near a fire station. My coworker kept asking if I watch movies because he could hear the fire trucks through my headphones. Some baby noises seem like nothing compared to that.
About daycare: Not all, but some kids are just not happy if you leave them too early in daycare, so you should have a plan B. Our parents were sometimes watching our baby and always said it's fine and look it's sleeping, but one day we came home earlier and it was crying nonstop and they admitted that it cried itself to sleep every time. Wouldn't trust the daycare center that "all is good" without staying a few days there (usually in the next room) and checking how it goes.
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One thing worth noting is that breast-feeding sometimes isn't enough and the babies keep crying and seem needy. usually an extra bottle is enough, sometimes it's just a few milliliters they need.
About the question: I would wait until you have a really noisy episode and then ask "sorry, is it too loud? the baby is very hungry today." but in general that is more distracting than if you just ignore it and repeat the part that probably got lost. Too many explanations and excuses will distract everyone, so just go like "We should use framework XY because it has ... SLUUURP ... because it has features A, B and C while the other frameworks usua .... SLUUUUUUURP .. usually have only two of them."
After having conferences with customers who had their windows open all the time near a fire station. My coworker kept asking if I watch movies because he could hear the fire trucks through my headphones. Some baby noises seem like nothing compared to that.
About daycare: Not all, but some kids are just not happy if you leave them too early in daycare, so you should have a plan B. Our parents were sometimes watching our baby and always said it's fine and look it's sleeping, but one day we came home earlier and it was crying nonstop and they admitted that it cried itself to sleep every time. Wouldn't trust the daycare center that "all is good" without staying a few days there (usually in the next room) and checking how it goes.
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One thing worth noting is that breast-feeding sometimes isn't enough and the babies keep crying and seem needy. usually an extra bottle is enough, sometimes it's just a few milliliters they need.
About the question: I would wait until you have a really noisy episode and then ask "sorry, is it too loud? the baby is very hungry today." but in general that is more distracting than if you just ignore it and repeat the part that probably got lost. Too many explanations and excuses will distract everyone, so just go like "We should use framework XY because it has ... SLUUURP ... because it has features A, B and C while the other frameworks usua .... SLUUUUUUURP .. usually have only two of them."
After having conferences with customers who had their windows open all the time near a fire station. My coworker kept asking if I watch movies because he could hear the fire trucks through my headphones. Some baby noises seem like nothing compared to that.
About daycare: Not all, but some kids are just not happy if you leave them too early in daycare, so you should have a plan B. Our parents were sometimes watching our baby and always said it's fine and look it's sleeping, but one day we came home earlier and it was crying nonstop and they admitted that it cried itself to sleep every time. Wouldn't trust the daycare center that "all is good" without staying a few days there (usually in the next room) and checking how it goes.
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One thing worth noting is that breast-feeding sometimes isn't enough and the babies keep crying and seem needy. usually an extra bottle is enough, sometimes it's just a few milliliters they need.
About the question: I would wait until you have a really noisy episode and then ask "sorry, is it too loud? the baby is very hungry today." but in general that is more distracting than if you just ignore it and repeat the part that probably got lost. Too many explanations and excuses will distract everyone, so just go like "We should use framework XY because it has ... SLUUURP ... because it has features A, B and C while the other frameworks usua .... SLUUUUUUURP .. usually have only two of them."
After having conferences with customers who had their windows open all the time near a fire station. My coworker kept asking if I watch movies because he could hear the fire trucks through my headphones. Some baby noises seem like nothing compared to that.
About daycare: Not all, but some kids are just not happy if you leave them too early in daycare, so you should have a plan B. Our parents were sometimes watching our baby and always said it's fine and look it's sleeping, but one day we came home earlier and it was crying nonstop and they admitted that it cried itself to sleep every time. Wouldn't trust the daycare center that "all is good" without staying a few days there (usually in the next room) and checking how it goes.
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Assuming you didn't work from home before having a kid - did you discuss this with your boss when going over expectations for WFH? Do they expect you to have childcare?
– taffy
10 hours ago
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@singlemom - if your employer doesn't know that you are caring for your baby during the same hours you are working, you should discuss it with them now. They probably won't mind, but you need to be sure.
– Joe Strazzere
10 hours ago
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I'm not as confident as @JoeStrazzere that they won't mind - many employers expect you to have childcare, so when you are working you are just working for them. I hope they are understanding.
– thursdaysgeek
9 hours ago
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@singlemom - discussing your plans with your employer is still the right thing to do. I had a remote single mom worker who discussed her childcare situation with me. She had to get her daughter off the school bus, get a snack, make sure she was occupied, etc - all during work hours. It wasn't much of a problem and she was terrific about being able to juggle all the responsibilities. I trusted her to get the work done while still attending to her family's needs. If she had tried to simply sneak that all past me without notice, I doubt it would have worked out as well.
– Joe Strazzere
9 hours ago
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@JoeStrazzere so I just spoke to my boss about this and he said its totally fine that I'm looking after her and that's what he expected and I'm doing a great job. I'm so relieved! I was really worried there. It's fine, he's fine with it. Yay! I did also say I was planning on getting childcare when she is more mobile.
– singlemom
8 hours ago